A day for romance
So, what are your plans for Valentine’s Day? I just loved being pampered and spoiled by my husband on Valentine’s Day. Perhaps he should be writing this post. He’s such a romantic and very loving.
Conversely, I think this can be another day of the year that exemplifies a value we can bring out and share with the world for the whole year. Just like Thanksgiving reminds us to be grateful, Valentine’s Day reminds us to be loving. If we love ourselves and show love to everyone we meet, the world would be such a lovely place to live in. Don’t you think? Let’s make Valentine’s Day a touchstone to remind us to show love to everyone all year long. And let’s start with ourselves.
Love yourself
What does it mean to love yourself? Believe it or not it means different things to different people. To me it means being happy, taking care of myself, living the life I want and honoring my needs and feelings. Now that I know, from reading Ask & It Is Given, that the most important thing is to feel good, I intend to keep myself happy. I want to feel good all the time and I’ve found it works best by being connected to Source and looking inside myself for my fulfillment and happiness. I can feel good all the time just by what I think and say and I’m working on feeling good all the time.
Being proactive for positive feelings
I’ve found that being proactive makes it so much easier to handle the ups and downs of the day. In addition to daily meditations and listening to Holosync® every day, I found two "processes" from Ask & It Is Given to do weekly. I usually do the Creative Workshop (Process Number 3 on page 155) and Scripting (Process Number 9 on page 207) on a weekly basis. Then throughout the week I’ll do The Rampage of Appreciation (Process Number 1 
on page 141), The Book of Positive Aspects (Process Number 8 on page 199), The Magical Creation Box (Process Number 2 on page 149), Virtual Reality (Process Number 4 on page 167), Evaluating Dreams (Process Number 7 on page 193), and The Place Mat Process (Process Number 10 on page 211) as they come up in my mind. If I’m feeling low I’ll grab the book and find a process that feels good and do that until I feel better. It never takes long, though, if I’ve been regular with my weekly work. The other thing that I’ve added is studying the e-paper Living from the Heart and practicing the exercises in it that teach you to live more from the heart.
Techniques for transforming negative feelings
Yup, they come up. Negative feelings are a reality for most of us and when they come up they are ready to be released. By using a few techniques, and paying attention to how I’m feeling, I can usually defuse negative feelings in less time.
- In The Power of Now Eckhart Tolle recommends listening to the voice in your head. When we have a painful experience that pain energy is stored within us and he calls it the pain-body. When you start having negativity emotions, aches and pains or negative thoughts, that is when you know the pain-body is active. By paying attention to what is happening, as if you are the silent watcher or observer, watching without judgment, you defuse the pain-body. When you defuse the pain-body, that energy that was once pain now becomes "presence power" and helps you to stay in the moment, the NOW.
- Event Temples offers a technique (available in "James’ notes" in the "My Journey" section of the website after you sign up) which James calls the "Neutral Heart Technique" and it’s a process by which you transform and realign stuck energies. Since negativity is just energy that has solidified in the energy field, it can’t be cast off from you but it can be transformed. Use the Neutral Heart Technique when you are experiencing anything negative and see what it does for you. I find it very affective.
- Esther and Jerry Hicks offer processes in Ask & It Is Given to get you from anywhere you are to a better feeling place all the way to a GREAT feeling place. And remember, practice makes perfect.
- Holosync is an automatic transformer of unresolved emotional issues. The primer level, Awakening Prologue, and level 1 come with materials to assist you in more easily transforming what arises in your that’s ready to be released.
- Keep a journal of how you are feeling each day and what’ coming up for you. Bill Harris from Centerpointe Institute recommends this practice for those using Holosync and assures us that those who do get results and move through their issues faster and less painfully.
What works for you?
You just need to figure out what works for you in order to keep yourself in a good feeling place (or stop a downward spiral) so you can show love to yourself and others and be the person you want to be. Just think about what you feel good doing. Is it watching an inspiring or funny movie, being alone, reading a good book, talking with a good friend, pampering yourself with a massage or something else that makes you feel good before, during and after? You can also ask the Universe to send you a message about what will work for you. Then just listen for the answer. Answers come to me through song lyrics, signs on the road, books, the things people say or they’ll just pop into my head. It’s fun seeing where God sends the answer. I’m glad the Universe has a sense of humor.
Best gift for you
What is the best gift you can give yourself? Think about it and then do it. You can find the tools and people and everything else you need to make your dreams a reality. Just get clear about what you want then allow the Universe to line things up to bring them to you. The best gift you can give the world is the gift of yourself being happy. Just imagine if everyone did that. I want to live in that world so let’s make it happen together. I’m doing it right now. Join me.
"Follow your bliss and doors will open where there were no doors before." -Joseph Campbell